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I always considered myself rather intentional when it came to parenting. I took to heart the saying, Aim at nothing and you will surely hit it.

I found parenting very challenging–and rewarding. From the time my children were very young I had a plan to help them grow into godly, responsible, creative adults. It was a fluid, way-of-life plan, not a rigid course of action. I was always looking for ways to build into their lives.

So the year my three were 15, 16 and 17, I chose to share with them some of the principles I thought would encourage their success in life. On the first Monday of each month that year I wrote them a letter, conveying a different “secret of success.” Things like Work Hard, Trust God, Accept Responsibility. Simple truths–biblical and practical. Admonition and motivation, hopefully.

I’ve shared these “secrets” with others, who seemed to find them valuable. So I have put these principles into a small gift book. It is written with students in mind, but the truths apply to all of us.  You can read it in 30 minutes, but it will take a lifetime to live it out.   Twelve secrets make it a great 12-week study for a youth group.

Letters to My Children: Secrets of Success is available through New Life Resources.

Enjoy. What are some of your “secrets” for a meaningful life?

NOTE: Follow a series of excerpts from the book.

c2012 Judy Douglass


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On the first Monday of each month when my children were in high school, I wrote a letter to them describing a secret of success in life.  Recently I compiled a year’s worth of secrets into a small book.  Secrets of Success is a great gift for graduates.  To give you a glimpse, I posted Secret #3 here.

Secret #3:  Accept Responsibility

One of the most important qualities of all successful people is that they are able to accept responsibility.

1. Step into opportunities.

You will grow in life when you see an opportunity, step out and accept the responsibility involved.  Look at each opportunity as a chance to learn something new and challenging.

The apostle Paul encourages you to make the most of every opportunity (Ephesians 5:16 and Colossians 4:5). The popular phrase carpe diem–“seize the day”–should be your motto.

2. Own your actions and choices.

Like everyone else, you make choices and take actions. When your actions have positive results, it is easy to take credit and compliments for what you’ve done. That is appropriate to do, as long as you receive praise with humility and are aware that God helped you.

However, “owning” your choices and actions that don’t turn out well is much harder, isn’t it?  Yet if you are to grow, learn and earn respect, you must be just as willing to accept responsibility for failures. It is easy to blame others or circumstances for your own wrong choices or inadequacies, but the Bible instructs you to take responsibility for what you do or don’t do (Proverbs 19:3, 8 and Proverbs 27:23, 24).

3. Learn from failure.

Hopefully your life will be full of many successes. But all of us have times when we fail. You may make the wrong choice, fall short of the standard, or not fulfill your responsibilities. You may get discouraged or down on yourself, or even give up. But these failures are often the best stepping-stones to future success. If you will welcome them as teachers, you can grow and achieve greater success in your next effort.

God has great plans for you!  He will provide many opportunities for you in your life.  My prayer is that you will step into each one and allow Him to use both successes and failures to help you become the person He has created you to be.

c2011 Judy Douglass

 You can order Secrets of Success in the US from New Life Resources.  In Asia, you can order from CCC Mass Media.

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My sweet friend, Natasha, is a thinker, a leader, a Christ follower.  She reads and writes and converses with insight and wisdom.  So it is with great gratitude that I send you over to her blog, A Sista’s Journey.

She has given an encouraging review of my book Secrets of Success, recommending it for you to read, and especially to give as a graduation gift.

I wrote this book originally as letters to my children when they were in high school, encouraging them to make choices that would lead to success in living.  My children are all grown and married now, and for the most part living by these principles.  Very gratifying.

So hop over to A Sista’s Journey to read Natasha’s thoughts.

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